Lets talk about Sex (cue Salt and Pepa)

Lets talk about...Sex!  The forbidden topic of discussion in the church.  Mainly, in the church I grew up in.  All I ever heard and kept hearing throughout my adolesence was "Don't have sex before marriage", "you should never have sex", "Sex is bad", "Never fornicate", "Don't have sexual relations outside of marriage", "You can get pregnant from kissing and sex", "You will go to hell if you have sex outside of marriage", "Wrap it up", "HIV/AIDS/STDs", "Abstinence is the only way" etc....  Anyone out there grew up like this?  I never was told why backed up by biblical principles and reasons.  The only reason why I received back then was "because the bible says so", never a scripture reference or reason why I should remain sexually pure until marriage.  So, curiousity killed the cat back in high school and I gave into temptation. I've learned over the last few years that sex is a gift created by God only for husband and wife.  Just read Song of Solomon in the Bible it will describe the essence of what sex was created for.

Song of Solomon 1:2-4

Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth— for your love is more delightful than wine. Pleasing is the fragrance of your perfumes; your name is like perfume poured out. No wonder the maidens love you! Take me away with you—let us hurry! Let the king bring me into his chambers.

Sex is a great thing and I am happy to say I have been given a "second virginity."  I decided last year to the date that I would refrain from sex until I was married.  So, yes it has been one year of celibacy.  I would say that it was hard, but actually it wasn't at all.  Mainly because I wasn't romantically involved with anyone where the temptation would have presented itself.  I know that holding out is a constant struggle of the mind, body, heart and will power at its best.  I will continue to ask God to keep my heart on him and remove any sexual frustrations and lustful thoughts from my mind.  I know that I will be tested whenever God sends along that knight in shining armour, and I will continue to refrain with God's help.

I have also been single for 2 years now, and for once on this journey of singled-om I can say that I am happy and content with my singleness.  Not pressed, not sprung, not worried about staying single forever.  I am happy with me, being by myself, being alone but definitely not lonely.  I'm still being purified like Esther for my king, and thanking God everyday for giving me a second chance.

Keep the Faith!

Until next time,
~E