God should be first! 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 verse as many other verses in the Bible display Christ's love for us and the love we should have for each other here on earth. I love these verses because they make it so plain and clear as to what kind of love you should look for in a mate, that God should be first in your realtionships. This was really hard for me in my past relationships because I still was living in sin i.e. having sex in those realtionships. Christ defintely was not the center of my relationship, other things were, like sex. Nothing wrong with sex. Sex is a beautiful thing that was created by God for married folk. I eventually learned that being unequally yoked (or being in a relationship with someone who isn't a Christain) will not only lead to road blocks, but you may end up crashing. Having the same beliefts, values, morals, will not only lead you down the road of holy matrimony, the journey and future is more bright with God leading the way in your relationship. I.E. no adultry, fornication, and DIVORCE!!! (I'm not saying that Christain people don't get divorces, it won't be as prone, if you are constantly seeking God, having a pastor to help you counsel, and supporting church marrige ministry to help through your problems.)"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Communication is key!
Communication is the back bone of relationships. Men are simple and women tend to take the things men say too deeply when its really simple. LOL Both of my last two "real" relationships were long distance so constant communication is the glue that kept the mold together. I remember many of times when things were blown out of porportion because neither body explained how they truly felt about the situation. All of that drama could have been avoided if we both were honest with ourselves and what we wanted. But remember text messaging doesn't always this count as communication.
SO: "Hey whats up"
EMF: "Hey nothing much how are you"
SO: "I'm doing good urself?"
EMF: "I'm doing well..How has your day been?"
SO: "Good"
Pick up the phone sometimes, we like to hear your voice!
Learn to compromise!
Just as communication is key so is compromising.
SO: "EMF what do you think about going to see Damon Wayans this weekend?"
EMF: "I actually wanted to go see Mike Epps this weekend."
SO: "I already purchased the tickets for Damon"
EMF: "How did you know I wanted to see Damon?"
SO: "I know you have already seen Mike Epps perform so I thought Damon would be something new"
EMF: "Thanks for thinking of me in your purchase yes I don't mind going to see Damon"
You get my drift it doesn't always go like that, but you have to learn how to be open and compromise or come to a common understanding even if its over something simple like a comedy show.
Never apologize for your feelings. If you are not happy then you shouldn't be in a realtionship! So simple but its hard when other people's feelings are in your hands. You don't want to lead someone on then break their heart, and of course you don't want vice versa to happen. But, you should never apologize for the way you feel, even if you fall out of like, love should keep the realtionship going.
What are some lessons of love that you have learned so far in your realtionships? Please add to these.
Keep the Faith!
Until next time,
~E
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