If you are an avid social networker like myself, all the rage these last few days has been a number game. The number game is where you message someone a number and they respond in their Status Update on Facebook or Tweet on Twitter the number and their honest opinion about you.
Pause.
In 2005, I did something that most people do at 20 (well at any age of immaturity), I cheated. Yes, I dated someone who was taking a break from his 4 year relationship. During their break, we spent every minute together. He went from friend to someone I was dating very fast. In our 3 month rendezvous; he took me out on dates, I cooked for him, we watched movies, and even slept in each other's beds (nothing happened we just kissed). We even purchased elaborate Christmas gifts for each other. It was an emotional love affair. He was still very much in love with his girlfriend he was taking a break from, but was confused about his feelings for me. Being the mature person I was at 20 I told him to go back with his girlfriend. He was never going to leave his girlfriend for me. He took my advice and went back to her.
Fast Forward.
In 2008, he proposed to said girlfriend. We had lost touch, he cut me off. I started dating and ended up in a relationship with someone else. Our friendship never was the same. In 2009, he married his long time girlfriend and I was NOT invited to the wedding. We share mutual friends. So, when everyone asked why I wasn't invited to the wedding? He immaturely says because of what happened between us in 2005. I was hurt because I assumed we could be adults about the situation especially 4 years later. I left it as it was and forgave him for being dramatic about a meaningless situation. We remained Facebook friends and kept in contact through mutual friends.
Play.
I get inboxed a number by him to play the number game. He says that he apologizes for being immature in the last few years. He had wrote me a letter, but never mailed it and hopes I could forgive him. I message him back thanking him for his apology. I also state "that forgiveness is powerful and that you learn, grow, and when you can forgive thats powerful." He messages back and says "thank you for understanding." I post in my status that "What can I say? 2005 was fun we shared some great times. I still have a movie of yours lol. I'm happy we haven't lost touch and put the past behind us. I appreciate your honesty and accept your apology. Wish you nothing but the best!".
No matter when someone says or if they ever say sorry or apologize; the power of forgiveness is priceless. If I didn't forgive him a long time ago I would not have been able to accept his apology for not inviting me to his wedding. I also would be taking baggage into future relationships. I know my Boaz doesn't want me to be bogged down with a simple apology. Brush it off, forgive now! Don't wait until its too late and someone is gone. Apologize and forgive!
Keep the Faith!
Until next time,
~E
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