In Hill Harper's new book "The Conversation" he takes a stab at the dating and marriage crisis in the black community. I love Hill Haper and think he is an amazing man of character and integrity, but how is he the expert on black marriage when he isn't married, hasn't been married? Steve Harvey already touched on black marriages and dating in his book "Act like a lady, think like a man." I will be honest and say that I didn't read the entire book from cover to cover, because there wasn't nothing that I already didn't know or hear before kind of like Steve Harvey's book. The most staggering statistic that stood out to me in the book was 70%! 70% say it with me 70% of black professional women have not been married. This means 7 out of 10 black professional women have not been married. I can see how this statistic is true. I have 7 older female cousins between my mothers and fathers side of the family whom have never been married and probably never will marry. Not to mention 5 out of 7 of these women have children, but are not married. This is because of many reasons outlined in this book. Nothing you haven't heard before, don't settle, don't rush into things take it slow, court longer, etc... I am not sure what group of black professional women Harper did his survey on, but social economic status, education, etc.. plays a key role in this statistic. I can agree that this statistic is true by the short survey in my family, but there is no need to freak out! I have seen two strong black marriages with stand time and that is of my grandparents maternal and paternal. I am blessed to still have both sets living and I love them dearly. My maternal grandparents have been married for 48 years and my paternal grandparents have been married for 63 years. God is good! We have another example of a great marriage in the White House with President Barack and First Lady Michelle Obama. Harper also touches on their union in the book since he knows the personally. So, my request of you is to not freak out! 70% is a high statistic, however maybe we need to re-evaluate ourselves more deeply to get to the real root cause of why so many black women are single and unmarried? Are we rushing into things, are we settling, is there not enough "good" black men? Are we really going to God sincerely asking him what we want or are we making a crazy long list of qualities that no man will have? Are we asking and not seeking? Are we praying and not believing? Are we stepping out on faith? Don't worry don't fret God has never failed me yet!
Keep the Faith!
Until next time,
~E
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