PB Wilson's "Your Knight in Shining Armor" has given me a new perspective on dating, courtship, pre-marital sex, masturbation, pornography, submission, and marriage. She gives vivid and relatable stories from her personal experience to couples she has counseled on their journey to the alter.
Wilson asks readers to make a six month commitment to not date and make God your number 1 priority and man. Why six months? Because thats the time it takes to get to know someone.
This is my personal committment: Lord, I want you to fashion me for my prospective husband. I commit the next six months of my life for your construction. I will surrender any area which is not controlled by you so that my life will bring you glory. EMF 10/20/09 Six Months up 4/20/10
Wilson also suggests to start a six month journal. Writing down observations and what the holy spirit has revealed to you throughout the process. Since I blog I will share with you my personal thoughts and experiences on how God is using me throughout this process.
She gives great insite on taking the steps to forgive, reconcile, and love unconditionally as God has loved us. The way to do this is to ask the Holy Spirit to reveal the three greatest areas in your life that need to be healed. This way we begin to face up to areas in which we need to grow.
Wilson then gives some questions that should be asked during the courting/dating process. Does he have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ? Have you ever been or are you now married? Do you have children? Tell me about your family and your childhood? What is his sexual attitude? Who is he accountable to? Does he make sound decisions? Although these are questions we typically ask during the dating process we should be looking for specific answers that reveal the persons character, integrity, and past.
My favorite chapter in the book is Chapter 5 In the heat of the Knight. In the heat of the Knight, Wilson breaks down pre-marital sex with the analogy of microwaves and crock-pots. She says a microwave hits high all of a sudden and a crock-pot its not that it won't hit high, it just takes time to warm up. Wilson then poses the questions "When you were single, were you a microwave or a crock-pot?" A microwave and crock-pot don't look alike nor do they have the same function. However, they are similar but get the results done in completely different ways. I am not sure what I am LOL
Also, in the heat of the knight Wilson discusses the good things about sex in marriage, why it is sacred, and how Satan fools us to think single women have more sex than married women. She states it plainly "Would you want someone to give you a gift that had already been unwrapped? (Having sex before marriage) takes away some of the excitement and joy. Petty, masturbation, and pornography tear apart the gift box."
Another great analogy or AHHAA moment for me is treating the holy spirit as a real person. "Where does the holy spirit live? "He lives with you and will be in you" John 14:17 and how long will he stay? "I will ask the father, and he will give you another counselor to be with your forever" John 14:16
The holy spirit is capable of so much! "But when he, the spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come" John 16:13 GLORY!!! You missed your shout! Your best friend the holy spirit will guide you and give you a sense of discernment.
My most favorite part is God's View of Sex!!!! If you have not read Song of Soloman you need to pull out your bible and read the best representation of a godly marriage sexual relationship. Sex is good, its a celebration of God's creations, and its for marriage only. Plain and simple! Wilson says a prayer commitment will stop your sexual desires and thoughts.
I would continue to write many of the valid points that I took from the book including submission, but I will continue to blog about them throughout my journey.
Please if you are a single woman who desires to have a personal relationship with God, GO PICK UP THIS BOOK! Although, it doesn't guarantee you to be married or finding your "knight in shining armor" you will be closer to God and be prepared for when he does reveal him to you.
Keep the Faith!
Until next time,
~E
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